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Chief Designer. Scandinavia is a place where everything revolves around childhood and family. This is striking when you see bicycles with trolleys for children (they can be rented for 15…

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We flew to the Black Sea, in Tuapse. Yaroslav got a grandmother!
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Fear of water in children (hydrophobia)

Water is life. On especially hot days, many have tested this truth on themselves. But on the shore of reservoirs you can definitely see a child who is literally forcibly dragged into the water. He screams, rests, beats in panic fear. And others sympathetically sigh: “Probably, someone scared the baby.”

Fever in children is not so rare. And it refers to neurotic symptoms. Comes suddenly, at the age of 4-5 years. It would seem that a year ago the baby frolic in the water, you won’t stretch your ears – and suddenly a panicky fear of even knee-deep walking. Parents rummage in memory when a moment of fright could occur, and they cannot find; most likely, there was no such moment.

Psychoanalysts believe that water is the personification of sensuality (for example, “water” dreams mean that a person has strong feelings for someone). It is no coincidence that feelings are spoken of as water: “choked with feelings”, “overwhelmed with emotions”. If these feelings are positive, everything is fine. And if they are negative, then you can really drown them.

Four years is the heyday of childhood fears. Any negative emotion, experience can develop into neurotic fear (of darkness, strangers, loneliness and, of course, water). A neurotic problem is rarely alone. She, as a rule, appears in the retinue of other neurotic symptoms.

Here is an example of the occurrence of rabies.

The parents of four-year-old Nastya sent their daughter for two months together with a kindergarten at sea (both the child will get better, and the young dad and mom will finally be together!). The timid, shy girl heavily suffered separation. The teachers did not consider it necessary to pay special attention to her. At the very first bathing in the sea, the girl had an acute fear, which was interpreted by the teachers as a whim. The torture lasted for two months: every day the girl was forcibly dipped several times into the water. Amid this fear, a tidy, well-educated girl began to suffer from encopresis – fecal incontinence. This severe neurotic symptom entailed other fears. In short, from the rest the girl returned as a complete neurotic. The reason for this was the separation of the “home” child from their parents, an experience that literally swept the girl in a sea wave.

Fear of fear is a very persistent symptom, it can persist for 3-4 years. If your child suddenly begins to be afraid of water:

– in no case do not force him to swim forcibly (just pour over the watering can, while he should be standing on the shore);

– At home in the bath, train to lower your head under water. The fear of water is, first of all, the fear of getting water on the face. This is due to the fear of lack of air, the child is afraid to choke. Begin to teach your child not to be afraid when splashes get on his face. Then learn to hold your breath. When the child has mastered this, pour water on his head from the mug (all this, of course, do in the game). Then you can begin to teach to lower your head under water. When you feel that the child has ceased to be afraid, begin to bring him to “great water”;

– and perhaps the most important thing is to penetrate the inner world of your child and see: is there any kind of hidden experience?

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