What to do with the child on the road? (part 1)
What to do with the child on the road? Psychologist’s advice.
Traveling in a car or on an airplane limits the ability of a small fidget to move; and since “acting” is the baby’s natural state, it is so difficult for him to sit in a limited space, and even “quietly.” Adults have to be especially inventive, occupying the mind of the child when his body is fastened with seatbelts. Therefore, in order to entertain the baby, take a bag with you on the road, put several small toys, a doll on your fingers, a toy airplane, a glass prism (which is designed for older children) and a cassette player with recordings of several fairy tales or songs.
For the contents of the bag to arouse the child’s interest, put in it an unusual toy – a “magic” slate board, a small chalk board or several toy characters from fairy tales. And for older children come up with simple “magic” tricks. Children often experience hunger during long trips in the car. So that they stop whimpering and acting up, offer them food that is at hand. True, it will be better if, instead of the usual lollipops, you take bags of raisins, cheese, crackers and breakfast cereals with you.
Traveling in a car (on a bus, on a ship, on a train, on an airplane) is an excellent opportunity to observe the world around us. Invite the children to describe in detail everything that they see, especially that which can be easily missed: the color of clouds, birds sitting on poles, the length of the shadow on a winter day. Make up stories about people driving in other cars, or about pedestrians. If you find it uninteresting to watch what is happening outside, keep your child busy with games. The tips suggested here are where to start. Try to come up with other activities, and if the child is interested, the road will seem shorter.
Record the story on tape.
Take a tape recorder and an empty cassette with you into the car, then your child will be able to tape his “radio story” on the way. And to ensure the creative process, first tell me the place where the action can take place – a forest or the seashore. Then help me choose the heroes of the story. You can start like this: “Once, while walking in the forest, I saw a huge, big and fluffy …”, and then let the child continue on his own. At the same time, do not forget to turn on the tape recorder on time. When the baby finishes his story, turn off the tape recorder and ask him questions to what he has already told. Let the storyteller rewind the tape from time to time and listen to it first. If there are several children in the car, they can create one common fairy tale in turn. Each of them needs to set aside a certain time for the story, but so that the expectation does not become tedious.
Continue the story for several journeys, or each time you can come up with a new one. Some children like the process itself – to record stories on tape, but then they lose interest in them. Others enjoy listening to their tales before bedtime or at some other suitable time.
This venture of the Schlessinger family can please everyone, regardless of age. You will be able to make your passengers laugh with just one simple caption: “Wave your hand if you are famous.” It is better to write it in huge letters on a cardboard or on a large sheet of paper. Let the children hold the poster in the window and amuse themselves with how others around it react.
During a long trip, you can play the “first letter”. Invite your child to come up with words that begin with the same letter as his name. Tell him some examples. If your child’s name is Maria, you can ask her: “What do you think, who is dad? He is not a woman, but … “Or:” Under the hood of the car there is an object with the letter “M” that makes the car move. This is … “Ask her:” Who controls the train? What do you add to breakfast cereals? “When the word is exhausted to “M”, you can go to any other letter.
Signs of the times.
Children who do not yet know how to read, can take pictures on advertising stands. Pay attention to these “pictures” when you pass by and ask them to name the goods depicted on them. Some kids love to sing advertising songs from TV ads. Talk about which of the advertised items your child used this week and which ones the whole family used. Do not forget about bread, although it is not advertised.
Children who learn letters can find them in the inscriptions you pass by. Older children can take this exercise: who will quickly name all the letters of the alphabet. And if a child begins to read advertising labels, he will have a great opportunity to demonstrate knowledge of letters, sounds and words.
Words are a generous gift to children. The richer their vocabulary, the sooner they will learn to perceive complex thoughts and feelings. Limited car space can be a convenient place to play word games. One of the games that helps replenish a child’s vocabulary is to search for complex words. Along the way, you will certainly meet a gas station, a car, a dairy. Maybe you will see a helicopter, an airplane, a sports ground, a steamboat, a dump truck, a waterfall, a bus station, an airport. At the same time, we can talk about how one complex word is formed from two words. Maybe you pass a parking lot, a TV tower, a skyscraper. Looking out the window, pay attention to the children on the telephone box, on the cargo van, and at the intersection, slowing down, on a string of cars. Then, together with the children, call them complex words: a pay phone, a truck, a convoy.
In addition to complex words, there are stable phrases when two words indicate one subject. For example, a telephone booth, an apartment building, a pedestrian walkway, a police post, an advertising stand. Try to explain to the child that it is precisely the simultaneous use of two words that is necessary to denote these concepts; for example, one cannot say only “telephone”, because it can be a station, a handset, or a service; if you leave only the word “booth”, then you can think about the dog. Let the child himself try to play with words, supplementing the first and second parts in turn with appropriate values.
For younger children, exercise can be simpler: try to pronounce words in syllables. In this case, emphasize each syllable. Let the child repeat after you, and then count the number of syllables together. He learns that the word av-mo-mo-bil has more syllables than the word sa-mo-yo or pa-ke-ta.
Remember some case.
Remember some recent event in which you participated with your child: how you visited your beloved aunt, how you celebrated your birthday, or how you went to the store to shop. Take turns telling what you saw and what you did. Your child can start like this: “When we visited Aunt Jane, I played a train with Craig and Todd.” You add: “And Aunt Jane made French toasts,” and your son will remember: “And you spilled the syrup on your blouse.”
Remember in turn as many details as possible until there is absolutely nothing to add. After that, select another event.
What to do when a bad mood.
If your child wants to talk about some unpleasant incident, listen to him to the end, and then ask what he should do to prevent this unpleasantness.
Recall events that happened recently. Do not go deep into the distant past, except, of course, some special case. Do not reproach the child for the fact that he forgot the moments that you think are important. Rest assured – someday he will clearly remember what you have completely forgotten.